Research Associate in Child
Development and Human Relations
A woman, named Emily, renewing
her driver's license at the County Clerk's office, was asked by the woman
recorder to state her occupation. She hesitated, uncertain how to classify
herself. "What I mean is," explained the recorder, "do you have a job, or are
you just a .....?"
"Of course I have a job," snapped Emily. "I'm a mother."
"We don't list 'mother' as an occupation...'housewife' covers it," said
the recorder emphatically.
I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same
situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career
woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
"Official Interrogator" or "Town
Registrar."
"What is your occupation?" she probed.
What made me say it, I do not know...The words simply popped out. "I'm a
Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."
The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though
she had not heard right.
I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then
I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the
official questionnaire.
"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your
field?"
Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, "I
have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't), in the
laboratory and in the field,
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters, (the whole darned family), and already have
four credits, (all daughters). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding
in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree.?.) and I often work 14 hours
a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most
run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than
just money."
There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she
completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.
As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was
greeted by my lab assistants - ages 13, 7, and 3. Upstairs I could hear our
new experimental model, (a 6 month old baby), in the child-development
program, testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt triumphant! I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!
And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and
indispensable to mankind than "just another mother."
Motherhood! What a glorious career! Especially when there's a title on the
door.
Send this to another Mother you know.
Does this make grandmothers "Senior Research Associates in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations" and great grandmothers Executive Senior
Research Associates"?
I think so!!!